Baseball games. Basketball games. Football games. Volleyball games. Home or away…Mom was always there. What I learned from her perseverance to make each game is shaping my leadership today.
Everyone wants to know that their work or performance matters. My Mom was my superfan and there are three lessons I think about with my own team, at work and at home:
Go crazy over successes
Just quickly, success doesn’t always mean winning. Sometimes it was stretching a single into a double. Mom loved to cheer and shout at our games. Big hugs and a hoarse voice were common by the end of most games. As leader, don’t miss the opportunities to say thank and recognize hard work. Whether someone is “just doing their job” or not, “superfan”-type bosses notice. They notice the little things. They notice the extra effort. They notice the teamwork. And they acknowledge it every chance they get.
Be heartbroken, supportive, and inspiring with struggles
To the previous point, seeing people work hard and challenge themselves, but come up just short is difficult. Every parent wants their kid to get picked for the traveling team or the choir or whatever.But if I heard it once from my mom, I heard it one hundred times, “…it’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game…”. The important point is to focus on growth and learning. Leaders help their team’s understand every interaction is a chance to get a little better. Often times we really need to know someone is on our side, regardless of the outcome.
But then there are sometimes where we need direct talk to get our heads screwed on straight. Mom did that well, but always in private and always with the focus of learning. Leaders need to learn this too. The best quote again comes from an article on Jim Harbaugh during his time as coach of the 49’s – “Celebrate in public, correct in private”.
So to all of the moms, our superfans,I hope you had an amazing mother’s day.
To my mom, thank you for being there for me..every time.
Here are this week’s 5 for 5 articles:
Box Breathing – by John Turner
- SO WHAT: No more excuses – learning mindful breathing is just this simple
Owning up to Your Ignorance by Saying “I Don’t Know” – by Farnam Street Blog
- SO WHAT: “By highlighting what we know and tactfully hiding what we don’t, we present the illusion of mastery…”
People Don’t Want Something Truly New, They Want the Familiar Done Differently. – by Nir Eyal
- SO WHAT: Interesting take on invention v. innovation
Be Outrageous, Choose to Grow. – by Mich Bondesio
- SO WHAT: Choose to move forward each day. Choose to grow.
4 Things Great Bosses Say to a New Employee That Most Bosses Never Think to Say – by Jeff Haden
- SO WHAT: Great ideas for onboarding….and frankly regular reviews with your team.
all the best, kevin